Don't feel bonded with my newborn
You look at your baby and feel almost nothing. You feed, change, and rock them. But the rush of love you were promised has not shown up.
Many new parents feel this and never say it out loud. Bonding can be slow, and it is not one moment. A hard birth, pain, fear, or broken sleep can all get in the way.
Sometimes this flat, far-away feeling is part of postpartum depression. That is an illness, not a flaw in you or a sign of a bad parent. It can start in the first days or months after birth.
When to see someone
Call your doctor or midwife if this numb feeling lasts past two weeks. Get help today if you think of hurting yourself or your baby. Do the same if you cannot keep your baby safe or get out of bed.
Below is a list of remedies people have used for postpartum depression. Each one carries a grade that shows how strong the research behind it is. A grade is not a promise, so talk with your doctor or midwife first.



