Suddenly angry and crying over nothing
A small thing sets you off. A dropped spoon, a slow reply, a look you don't like. Then you snap, or the tears come, and the size of it shocks you.
Minutes later it may pass. You feel calm again, and a bit ashamed. Many women in their forties say this is the part that scares them most.
In the years before your periods stop, your hormones rise and fall in a jagged way. This stage is called perimenopause. Those same hormones help set your mood, so mood can lurch when they lurch.
Other things stack on top. Broken nights, long work days, and kids or parents who need you all add strain. Low iron, a thyroid problem, grief, or low mood can also make you short-fused and tearful.
When to see someone
Book a doctor's visit soon if you feel low or flat most days for two weeks or more. Get help the same day if you think about harming yourself or anyone else. Also call your doctor if your anger frightens you or the people near you, if you cannot work or care for your family, if you drink more to cope, or if you have heavy bleeding, a racing heart, or weight loss you cannot explain.
Below is a list of traditional and home remedies people have used during this stage of life. Each one carries an evidence grade. The grade tells you how much good research exists, and no more.
A high grade is not a promise, and a low grade is not proof that something is useless. Bring anything you plan to try to your doctor, since some herbs clash with medicines.



